40 and Fabulous!

I had an interesting conversation today. It is regarding truth. How it came about was I was talking to my friend Mary, and it got really clear that I was completely resigned and cynical about ever meeting someone to settle down with. I have it as the truth that I am 40, too old, to frumpy, too this too that etc etc etc to actually meet and go out with someone. That is a story that I have been living in for a decade, even before I turned 40. I made that story up.

There is no truth in reality. In Reality, I am 40 and single. I can either have all the reasons and justifications to why I am not or I can be 40 and fabulous. That is more fun.

We live in a story most of the time about ourselves, others and what we think we can and can't do. None of which is true. if you have a "perception" about someone or something, it doesn't mean it is true, it is just your perception. If you think someone is a jerk, then they are by virtue of your perception. It doesn't mean people don't do jerky things, they do, but they are not necessarily a jerk.

My perception of myself changed in this conversation. I created 40 and fabulous rather than 40 and frumpy, or what ever I was telling myself. So now I am creating dating. Hey why not?

So inside of being 40 and fabulous, Nancy, my best friend, and I were in Atlantic City this weekend. We had a ball. We played slots, we laughed, we walked the boardwalk. We even said if we hit the big jackpot, we would "buy" me a husband and fly to Las Vegas and get married. (She is already married). We didn't win but we had a ton of fun. Now between the laughing and having fun and the conversation I had about truth and reality, I really saw I am ready to meet someone and fall in love and create the next chapter in my life. (Know anyone who would want to be with a 40 and fabulous woman??????????? Please email me if you do. Seriously)

Life isn't about finding yourself, it is about creating yourself.

The stories you have created aren't the truth. If you made them up, you can make up something else. Why not create something that excites you? Have your fabulous life begin today......... Why wait????? Today is the first day of the rest of your life. Go for it!