Choose Happy

I had an interesting conversation today. Someone asked me how I could stay positive all the time, despite all I have been through. I had to think about that for a moment. All I have been through....... It sounded like I had been to and from war. I have been through Cancer, Some financial challenges, life changes...... but I am not a victim of it.

I really began to ponder what this person meant. She said it was so hard for her to stay positive when her family is not, her work is not and her life doesn't seem as if it is going the way she wants. She wanted to know when I am dealing with "LIFE" how do I not let it get me down.

Well, I have a choice. My life is not governed by my circumstances. (and when it is, it is a moment of default, not conscious awareness). I explained to her that life is what you make of it. There is no "TRUE" life or how life is supposed to be or even how people are supposed to be. It is all our interpretation. Life just IS. Then there is the story, meaning and interpretation we add too it. I choose to be positive because I choose to be positive. I do get down, don't get me wrong but then I have a choice to stay there or not.

She was dumbfounded and said you make it sound so easy. I said, It is. The more you are conscious, the more you have choice. Life isn't happening to you. You are creating it moment-by-moment, day-by-day. Don't pretend you don't have bad days, but when you notice you are, do something about it. If you can't resolve it for yourself, then call someone who can support you. My friends are a great support, my well-being team, my coaches. I don't call people who won't support me when I need it. In other words, I don't call people I know will let me grovel. I call people who will listen, and get me back on the horse in a few minutes.

Life doesn't have to be a challenge. We don't have a say in our circumstances, we do have a say in who we are being about them.

I told my friend, positivity is contageous. The more positive you are, the more the people around you will become that. It is a choice. Everyday I set my intentions, create my day, meditate, say my affirmations and live the life I choose to. You can too.

When you let go of the circumstances, you have nothing but choice. You always have a choice. Even when people are not being the way you think they should, again it is how you think they should be. They are just being.

It gave her new insight and something to practice. And it is a practice. My circumstances are not ideal, as anyone's but it doesn't get me down. I am not happy by nature, I am happy by choice......